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What the Heck is Redefining Success Anyway?

  • Writer: breakingchaosbuildingclarity
    breakingchaosbuildingclarity
  • Oct 29, 2024
  • 4 min read

Redefining success means letting go of the traditional ideas of achievement and accomplishment and discovering what truly matters to you. Success has often been defined by society as reaching certain milestones—like getting a high paying job, owning a house, or achieving a specific social status. But when we buy into this one-size-fits-all version of success, we can end up chasing things that don’t actually bring us happiness or fulfillment. Redefining success is about shifting the focus inward and asking yourself, “What does a meaningful, fulfilling life look like for me?


Why Redefining Success is Important

 

Living by someone else’s definition of success can feel like wearing clothes that don’t fit. Sure, they may look fine to the outside world, but internally, something feels off. Many people spend years chasing goals that society deems important, only to realize that achieving those goals doesn’t bring them the satisfaction they expected. This can lead to feelings of emptiness, burnout, or frustration. Redefining success allows you to create a vision of achievement that aligns with your values, passions, and unique path.

 

When you redefine success, you gain the freedom to design a life that feels authentic and purposeful. Instead of striving for accolades or titles, you start to pursue things that genuinely resonate with you. Success becomes less about external validation and more about internal fulfillment. It’s a journey that asks you to dig deep, question societal expectations, and make peace with the fact that your version of success might look different from everyone else’s—and that’s perfectly okay.

 

How to Start Redefining Success

 

1. Identify What Truly Matters to You: Take some time to reflect on your core values. What brings you a sense of purpose? What activities or pursuits make you feel alive? Write down the things that genuinely matter to you, whether it’s relationships, creativity, freedom, health, or personal growth. These values will serve as a foundation for your new definition of success.

 

2. Question Traditional Milestones: Society often tells us that success is about acquiring things—money, status, possessions. Ask yourself if these traditional markers of success truly align with your values. For example, does climbing the corporate ladder bring you joy, or are you doing it because it’s expected? By questioning these milestones, you create space to pursue goals that are aligned with who you are, not just what society values.

 

3. Define Success on Your Own Terms: Success is deeply personal, and it doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s journey. Maybe success for you is having a fulfilling relationship, making a difference in your community, or simply finding joy in everyday moments. Whatever it is, be clear and specific about what success means to you. This definition should feel inspiring, not stressful.

 

4. Focus on Growth and Fulfillment Over Results: Success is often defined by outcomes—getting the promotion, making a certain amount of money, reaching a milestone. But true fulfillment often comes from the journey itself. Focus on growth, learning, and the experiences you gather along the way. When you see success as a process of becoming, rather than just achieving, you build a life that’s rich in meaning, regardless of external outcomes.

 

Example in Real Life

 

Imagine someone who has been working in a high-powered job for years, driven by the desire to earn a large salary and gain professional prestige. On paper, they’re successful. But inside, they feel unfulfilled and disconnected from their passion. After some soul-searching, they realize that success for them isn’t about climbing the corporate ladder; it’s about making a positive impact in people’s lives. So, they decide to shift careers to something more aligned with their values—perhaps teaching, counseling, or working in a creative field. Redefining success in this way may mean fewer financial rewards, but it brings a sense of purpose and joy that the traditional path could not.

 

By redefining success, they’re no longer chasing societal approval; they’re creating a life that resonates with their own values. The sense of fulfillment they gain from this new path feels far more rewarding than any external recognition or paycheck.

 

The Power of Redefining Success

 

Redefining success gives you the freedom to create a life that feels rich, meaningful, and true to who you are. It takes courage to step away from conventional definitions, but the rewards are profound. When you stop measuring yourself by society’s standards, you begin to experience a deeper sense of contentment and peace. You’re no longer driven by the need for validation, but by a desire to live a life of purpose, integrity, and authenticity.

 

This journey of redefining success also builds resilience. When you define success by your own terms, setbacks and failures don’t feel as devastating, because they’re part of a larger, meaningful journey. Success becomes less about reaching a destination and more about aligning with your values, following your passions, and finding joy in the journey itself. You start to see every experience—whether a win or a loss—as an essential part of the path that leads to a fulfilling life.

 

Redefining success is an act of liberation. It’s the choice to live fully, embrace your uniqueness, and build a life that reflects your true self. So, if you’ve been chasing someone else’s version of success, take a moment to pause and ask yourself what success really means to you. When you let go of the pressure to conform, you open yourself to a life that’s not only successful but genuinely satisfying.

 

 
 
 

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Dr. Rick is not a licensed medical doctor and does not represent himself as such. He holds a terminal doctoral degree in his field of study and does not provide therapeutic or medical services. Breaking Chaos Building Clarity is a coaching service that utilizes Motivational Interviewing techniques along with psychoeducational tools informed by various therapeutic modalities, including, amongst others, DBT, CBT, REBT, ACT, SBT, EBT, and Radical Acceptance. This service is designed to meet clients where they are, empowering them to define their own vision of recovery. This website is intended solely for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The information provided here, as well as the services offered by Breaking Chaos Building Clarity, are not meant to replace consultation with qualified healthcare professionals. Any health concerns should be addressed by a licensed professional. Dr. Rick and Breaking Chaos Building Clarity expressly disclaim any liability for direct or indirect losses or damages arising from the use or reliance on the information provided herein or from the engagement of coaching services.

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